Please excuse me while I, once again, preach to myself.
For some of us, the need to be accepted holds such a weight or value in our lives that it will compete with our instinctual ability to separate right from wrong. For those of us who are burdened with this particular dysfunction, often find ourselves smack dab in the midst of unhealthy, unsafe and unproductive situations.
I understand this all too well because I am often that person and, at parts of my life, in a very extreme way.
The hunger to be wanted, the hunger to be needed, the hunger to be loved, and the hunger to be valued is VERY real. And if you are connected to the wrong place or the the wrong people you will PROSTITUTE your gifts and your values to satisfy that hunger.
Hungry to be loved she stayed in a relationship even though she was abused to near death. Hungry to be accepted he ran with people whom he knew were criminals. Hungry to be accepted by the leadership of his job he took an $1,100 per month loan for a BMW he could not come close to affording.
But why do we do these things???
Just like a starving child, hungry people cannot function until they’re fed. <—-read that again...
This may seem crazy to people who don’t have this hunger. But that’s ok, this post isn’t for y’all. This post is for the people who know what it’s like to hunger to be accepted.
If you have that hunger, raise your hand 🙋♂️ (mine is raised).
In several places the Bible makes clear the fulfillment of this hunger. One of my favorites is Romans 14:18 “Whoever thus serves Christ is acceptable to God and approved by men.”
The Bible shows me that the satisfaction of my hunger of acceptance is fulfilled through my servanthood to the Lord. We have to be so intensely focused on our relationship with God, that we allow Him to be the only connection that matters KNOWING that He will fulfill the hungers of our humanity.